the “you live with your parents” insult is really flaccid because a metric shitton of cultures don’t see “leave the house forever” as some grandiose moment of liberation that’s so important to the development of a person that it has to happen as fast as possible. until i came to the USA i didn’t know a single person who was pressured by their parents to leave the house because they’re “too old to stay there” or whatever. in puerto rico it is really common to stay with your parents until they and you are both stable enough that you can leave. whaddaya know, there are cultures that don’t place a stigma on being poor or wanting to care for your family or needing your family to care for you for some other reason.
I’ve told people this for years: “Leaving the nest” when you’re 18, assuming it’s under safe and healthy circumstances, is a distinctively white middle class American ideal that doesn’t apply to much of the world, let alone much of America. If you have the chance to leave home of your own volition with the ability to support yourself, great, but most people don’t. We just don’t.